Chapter 22 » 22.44
Marriage and steadfast commitment
Celebration of commitment
For Quaker marriage procedure see chapter 16
According to George Fox the joining in marriage is God’s work and that of no one else. Having found Friends rather late in life, when we were both approaching the age of sixty, the fact that in a Quaker marriage, partners marry each other appealed immensely to us and we so wished that this could have been our experience. Would it be possible to re-take our vows within a meeting for worship, we wondered? The elders of our meeting were approached and they could see no reason why, as part of the spoken ministry, we should not rise when we felt the time was right and make our commitment to each other using the words of the marriage ceremony but replacing the word ‘take’ with ‘take again’. So on the first day of the ninth month 1991, exactly forty years to the day since we had been through a marriage service, we re-took our vows within a Quaker meeting for worship.
For us this was a wonderful experience. Several Friends felt moved to speak and after the meeting there were tears and hugs all round.
Don Grimsditch and Doris Mitchell-Grimsditch, 1994
For George Fox’s words referred to here see 16.01