In such a meeting for clearness, note that:

1. it will not be appropriate to include close relatives of the couple in the meeting for clearness;
2. when an application has been received and it is agreed that a meeting for clearness should be held, at least one elder or one overseer (or experienced Friend, where these officers are not appointed) should be included in the group; in most such cases the registering officer will also join it so that he or she is in a position to give guidance to the area meeting as to whether the marriage should be allowed;
3. any personal matters that are disclosed in the course of the meeting should be regarded as confidential to the group.